There is a lot of talk lately about Ravelry being a cesspool of snarkiness and sarcasm. It has even touched me at times, sometimes directly and sometimes peripherally.
My mother once told me that I should choose my friends wisely. I think the same applies to Ravelry. For the most part, though I have experienced it, the snark and sarcasm are contained to certain places. If you choose to stay out of those places, you are less likely to encounter it. I tend to gravitate toward smaller groups with people I’ve known for awhile. And my experiences with the site have been overall quite pleasant.
Furthermore, I have experienced and seen wonderful acts of friendship happen on that site. The same site that people complain is too snarky and mean. This is certainly a place where pay it forward applies, and I’ve seen that happening over and over.
Let me explain one such case that encompasses 2 very kind hearted people, one whom I know well, and the other who is a stranger to me.
You may remember how I talked of my yarn fairy, Savasana, scoring Wollmeise yarn. She has gone above and beyond for me on a regular basis, and she didn’t just gift me one skein, but 3! Now how she is even planning on giving up those final 2 skeins I have no idea. I am more selfish than she, so I am glad she is the one who is managing to get her hands on the stuff.
After the 3rd skein she managed to get me, I of course asked her what I can get her in return! Can I bring her something from Chicago? Can I send her something I already have? What is it that I can do to return her generosity in some way?
She had an idea, she had found a lovely sanguine gryphon silk/merino blend roving which she had fallen in love with. She asked if it is restocked at a future sneak up, even though it wasn’t currently available, could I please spin it for her. Well of course! That is an easy and fun job for me.
So we began to wait together for this particular color. She posted on a Loopy Groupie group that she was waiting for this particular roving. Soon enough, a woman she doesn’t know messages her and tells her that she will sell her that roving for a deeply discounted price. And that she had 4 more that she was willing to part with at the same price. Savasana replied that actually I would be doing the spinning and she would let me know about it.
Well I got quite excited about these rovings. All of them are beautiful high quality hand dyed rovings and she was selling them quite cheaply. She explained to me that she went a little nuts buying them in anticipation of a spinning class. Whereas she learned that she didn’t like spinning at all, and was now trying to get them off her hands. She told me if I was to take them all at that price she would then pay shipping as well. I was startled at the crazy generous offer, and I purchased them. Furthermore, this wonderful woman, who does not know me at all, sent them out right away. She did not wait for my paypal to clear, but she trusted me and just sent them right out. (My paypal did clear, just to make it clear.)
I received those rovings today. I thought the box looked a little big. I opened it up, and for a moment I thought she had sent the wrong thing! As I investigated, I realized she had sent not only the ones I ordered but 4 more rovings as well, at no cost to me! How wonderful and kind was that??? I am sad that I cannot reach through the computer and give her a hug.
So I contacted her and asked which roving she absolutely loved, so that I can spin it up for her and she can have the handspun that she is not destined to make for herself. Do you see how this works? 3 people, in their generosity, all end up with something they can treasure hand crafted by someone else.
So don’t go on about how Ravelry is mean and snarky. Just choose your friends wisely, and avoid those who have the difficult tendencies. Will you get burned from time to time? Probably, after all, we get burned even in real life. But I think it is far more likely, when you you have chosen who to associate with wisely, that you will have experiences similar to the one I just had today.
Did you say you wanted to see those rovings? Why, I must comply!
These are the ones which I purchased from her.
And these are the ones which she gave me out of the kindness of her heart!