Yeah nice try, I’ve never had it and the thought makes me gag. But, after much debate over patterns, Nick and I came to the conclusion that I should just design a scarf for him. Since it is his scarf, and it will be my first design, it needed a name. I let Nick name it, and he chose “Red Bull and Vodka.”
I wanted subtle, textured, and somewhat elegant. I think even in this unblocked state I am getting there.
And here is a quick update on the optim, 600 yards optim singles spun laceweight.
Bug is a good kid. Really. She is pleasant to be around, she obeys and listens and picks up her toys. She is funny and smart and active and compliant. She is somewhat nervous which makes her not take risks that other moms worry about. If you tell her the danger of something, she pays attention. She sleeps well, goes to bed when she is told, and is content. She is at her best in the mornings when she wakes up, playing for hours by herself. She responds well to discipline, especially the elimination of her favorite activities when she isn’t doing what she is told. She weighs her choices carefully, and more often than not, the elimination of a particular activity is not worth the disobedient thing that she wants to do. Even if it is just talking back to me.
Is this nature of nurture? Is she a compliant child by nature or have I worked really hard? Is it a combination?
Apparently the ex is having a tough time. Right down to the point where he doesn’t want her to stay with him anymore. She won’t sleep for him. She won’t stay in her bedroom at night and stays up very late. He gets no peace when she is there. He has to either let her fall asleep with a movie running or he has to lay in bed with her until she falls asleep. I have never ever had to do any of these things. She has asked me to on occasion, usually upon return from her dads house, but I do not allow it. It isn’t even a question. But the behavior has gotten so out of hand at his house that he doesn’t even want her around!
Nature or nurture? We have a real life Jekyll and Hyde on our hands. I’ve worked extraordinarily hard to make sure I have as easy a time as possible with her most times. Her dad takes the easy route and doesn’t even want her to be around right now.
I’ve done all the suggesting I can with him and I choose no longer to be involved with his decisions as long as they are not directly hurting her. I don’t like that he cannot be consistent, but I cannot create a good parent out of him any more than I was able to create a good husband out of him. Instead, I will spend more time with her and she will continue to be more pleasant around me. I guess in the end, I feel like the winner.